Everything we do during the day can affect how we sleep from what we eat and drink to when we eat and drink, when and how we exercise, whether or not we get outside to the temperature of the room and the state of our sex life. But today I want to talk about something different in relation to sleep, sex and stress. And that’s our perception of safety.

We can still bring the burn for our students without sinking into burnout ourselves. Part of the process is learning to navigate our own stress curve better so then we can help our students.

One part of that navigation process is to begin to integrate an understanding of our nervous system into our class design.

The Freeze state is part of the parasympathetic side of our nervous system. It can be a little confusing because social engagement and calm also is parasympathetic and we think of freeze as bad and social engagement as good. So today we’re going to work IN to the freeze state and talk about what it is, what it’s purpose is, what it looks like and feels like in humans and how we can safely move out of that state if we find ourselves stuck there.

The neurologist, you know, just kept coming into his room saying this can't be possible, that he is alive and that he's functioning and his ECGs are coming back normal. So, I consider myself the luckiest mom in the world. So I, I just feel like I need to use that experience to help other parents who are going through that whether you've just found a little bit of marijuana in your kids backpack or a bottle, an empty bottle of vodka in their room, too, you know I've got a kid on the streets, who's doing heroin.

We can't remove all of the challenges, all of the triggers that we could possibly come into contact with simply to make ourselves feel more resilient because resilience isn't about being calm all the time. Resilience is about rising to the challenge whatever it is, and then coming back to our calm. And if we want to get better at doing that, then we need to practice doing that.