Until about the age of 7 we don’t have the ability to reject any ideas or beliefs that we’re exposed to. Our baby brains haven’t developed that kind of filtering yet. So our early years are marinating in the beliefs of our caregivers about who we are and what we’re capable of in this world, what we should and shouldn’t do. By the age of 7 are well and truly programmed with all kinds of micro cultural expectations around health, wealth, education and behavior. For many people that micro culture includes identity pathologies and socially acceptable addictions like food and alcohol but also the emotional energy of stress and over commitment on one side and victimhood on the other. Our Work IN today is how to use the 3 things we’re always trying to let go of in yoga; judgment, expectation and attachment to defy definitions and expand our health beyond what the eyes can see and break our stress addiction.

Hypervigilance is a common stress and trauma response where it feels like you’re always on high alert. It’s also one of those things that opens the door to self medicating because when we can’t self regulate our nervous system we often turn to external chemical regulation. Our work IN today is how hypervigilance as a stress response can lead to socially acceptable addiction and natural ways we can self regulate for ourselves and our students.

Nobody wants to admit they're traumatized because especially by people, they trusted to love them and empower them, keep them safe, blah, blah, blah, right? That I mean, that is horrible. That's a horrible, horrible thing to think the people who I needed to love me just didn't even give a right is about me to the point that they were hurting me, right. That's horrible. And I think that when we that being so awful, often prevents people from admitting like you know, what, maybe this is related to the fact that, you know, I had this horrible upbringing,..

Kailyn specializes in helping women reclaim their power after trauma. She's a life coach podcaster and life enthusiast, her journey to help others began with her own challenges. And as a result of her life experiences, she experienced very low self worth and self confidence. Now she shares the wisdom that she learned along the way of healing herself with others. Her mission with her podcast and life coaching service is to help as many women as possible. Feel unequivocally empowered to be their authentic selves. By connecting with their own self love.

Part 2 of my interview with parent coach Brenda Zane, we discuss therapy Al-anon, The craft system. And then, of course, her community, this stream, and how that community is helping moms of teens in and out of active substance abuse in amazing and powerful ways. So let's get started with our work in today. 

The neurologist, you know, just kept coming into his room saying this can't be possible, that he is alive and that he's functioning and his ECGs are coming back normal. So, I consider myself the luckiest mom in the world. So I, I just feel like I need to use that experience to help other parents who are going through that whether you've just found a little bit of marijuana in your kids backpack or a bottle, an empty bottle of vodka in their room, too, you know I've got a kid on the streets, who's doing heroin.