if people listening get no other message I hope they get the message to meet yourself with kindness and compassion, because these are subconscious responses that are happening outside of your awareness. 

Now the good news is, and that we'll talk about that in a moment is, you can start to bring in your conscious awareness to start to pull yourself out of those states, but your system is doing that for you at an unconscious level to protect you. You're not making that choice, so free yourself from any judgment and guilt and meet it with kindness and compassion,

The word trauma...it holds a lot of stigma. When you hear it you might think major injury, assault, catastrophic event, abuse, suffering but underlying all of these is a sense of victim-hood. I used to think (and maybe you did too)that only soldiers experienced trauma. It never occurred to me that as a human being I’m exposed to trauma all the time.