Conscious Awareness with Brian Berneman
“I know that every single moment, I have the capacity to create and to change the narrative and to create a new story. So I can't rewrite my story. Anytime…” Brian Berneman
Transcript
Ericka Thomas 0:00
Welcome back to the work IN everyone. My guest today is Brian Berneman. He is a well being leader, international speaker host of the conscious action podcast and as a holistic coach and co founder of conscious action and you being you he helps people discover a conscious way of living and how to have a positive impact in the world. Today on the work in we'll be exploring how to use the mind body connection in order to take conscious action towards your goals in the new year, among many, many other things. Please welcome to the work in Brian Berneman. Hi, Brian, thanks so much for joining me.
Brian Berneman 1:25
Hi there I got thank you so much for having me. It's a pleasure to be here and to do some work in.
Ericka Thomas 1:31
Wonderful. Let's just dive right in. Tell us a little bit more about you and what you do.
Brian Berneman 1:40
Yeah, thank you for your time. It's really important to have some context to the work that we do. I appreciate having the time to share a little bit of that. I grew up in Argentina, you know, typical childhood, till the moment that I was in my early teen years that my parents started to do some personal development work on themselves. That started to transpire in my house a little bit. And then I got introduced in through them to different teachings and different ways of being in different practices. And that really changed the course of my life. I basically spend from the time that I was a teenager until now really just exploring me as an expert in my energy, my mind body spirit connection and exploring how I'm in relationship with what's outside of me as well. And through the years led me through the path of living in different countries and exploring different traditions. At one moment, I was asked if I could share what I was actually doing and little by little from there things just started rolling and it's like, okay, so now I'm doing this for work. So now I'm basically making a living doing what I set out to just do for myself to discover me and to discover how to stay well and I'm super grateful that that I'm able to do that and as to share you know, I do this in a lot of different ways. And that keeps my every week really interesting. Because every single day I'm doing something different. One day for example, I might go to the university to teach and then I might have a one on one client and then I might go to a business to work with employees of the business and then perhaps I'm doing napkin podcasts so every day is slightly different and I love that and and I love the fact that I'm able to have so many different ways of relating to the recommends people have what they are and support them as people and not just as a generic thing that perhaps doesn't work for them.
Ericka Thomas 4:06
Yeah, that's that's, that's really great, right? I mean, it's interesting isn't it when you look back over a lifetime, how things that you just maybe stumbled into suddenly become a career?
Brian Berneman 4:23
Yes, no, I I'd say I was actually talking to someone earlier because when I was a kid I wanted to be a journalist. And that was not actually I was three or four years old. I want to be a journalist and that was the path and I actually became a journalist. That's one of the things that I studied. And then I worked as a journalist for a few years. But I found within days that there was something that felt more aligned and that resonated more with with aquarium. You know, I know what that is so privileged and fortunate to be able to make living with something that I don't feel it's work, you know, like the mentality that people have what work is, I don't, I don't have the same definition for me work is how I show up in life and how I show up for myself on how I show up for others. And then it's like our there's a transaction there and make some money or I'll make another way if I decide to do other type of transaction exchange, but to be able to found to have been able to found that, as I was discovering myself, it's so so good, because for most people, that's not the case. You know, most people were trained and we go and we lead study something and then that's it. instead of like, there's something that I'm learning and then I'm able to actually share this with people. Right.
Ericka Thomas 5:45
Yeah. Yeah. And especially, you know, for young people, like an 18, 16 17, 18 year old people to be asked to decide then and there what they're going to do for the rest of their life. I mean, that is unrealistic because we are all evolving in some way, shape or form throughout our entire lives. and I know for myself, personally, my background was in communications. that's my formal education. It's in communication, along the lines of journalism, although I didn't take that journalistic route was more the production side of communication and I thought, when I left college that I would never have a chance to use any of those things and yet, now, I podcast and use all of those things is an interesting it's definitely an interesting evolution to talk to people coming from all different all different aspects of life and how they come to these healing, teaching educational kinds of, of careers. It's it's really an interesting journey for sure.
Brian Berneman 6:30
You know, what does just mention that as well that's not as important nowadays. To understand that there's a shift as well and how we might see work or come for years. Yes, like I said, especially for younger people. And I'm, like, even like, like, I feel like I'm young, but it's my students at university or half my age. So that's the young and but I tell them a lot of times now, take the skills from what you're learning, but don't get too attached to this is what you need to do your entire life because that's not true anymore. You could perhaps work in that same industry, or that same neck skill for a few years and then decide okay, I need a change. And I think that even though up until a few years ago, it was not a negative thing. Hiring someone that perhaps changes sort of real time like their work. I think that there are some positive as well in that and that it's not as it's not seen as negatively now, for people that are there with more open minded because there's a sense of curiosity and exploration. Whereas, you know, I remember someone in when it comes to New Zealand, I came to New Zealand eight years ago, and I needed to find someone to sponsor me to stay. So I need to find like actual like employee work. One of the first questions they asked me is like, why we would hire you when you have changed so much reward that you don't commit? And so they're like, how do you get that I don't commit just because I've changed my circumstances a lot of times, because you don't know their story then why that changed, you know, that I had to move from country to country a couple of times because my visa didn't get renewed. Therefore, it had to change work. And that didn't say anything about one commitment. That is something that they thought so I think that you know, like there's something as well there in terms of understanding the recent and the context behind things that that are important to know.
Ericka Thomas 8:29
Absolutely, absolutely. Now, in your bio, it's it talks about your background in neuroscience and I'm really curious about that. Because I love I love hearing how these scientific studies are all of a sudden discovering this overlap of things that we have already known in these ancient cultures. And so can you can you tell us a little bit more about that and how it helps your work with your clients today?
Brian Berneman 9:13
Yeah, definitely. You know, I think and I'm so grateful that I came across neuroscience. This is 2008. So this is kind of like the beginnings where neuroscience was starting to be a thing. And I did in my pursue neuroscience. And the interesting thing for me, I still say that what neuroscience is doing is that it's proving all of those things that we already knew to be true. But now there's proof that the the scientific method is able to show and that is something that I think it's it's critical for the place that we are under time that we're now in because a lot of people are quite logical, and they will only follow something if there's some kind of proof, even though the actual understanding of the scientific method is that it's proven until it's disproven. So there's no actual truth. It's just truth in the moment and time based on what you're looking at. But going beyond that. The interesting thing for me my work and for the times that we're in is that I'm able to have a language and a framework to reach people and meet them where they are, if they are not open to something that would be considered perhaps, you know, like, Eastern philosophy and perhaps they have did a bit of some resistance to that or aversion to something that is foreign or something that would be perhaps, labeled as spiritual. So those things even though I'm actually using that, I am talking to these people with scientific language, so instead of for example, and talking about, you know, like okay, let's sit and meditate, and let's reach different levels of consciousness and awareness, and mind talk about that. Now, for example, it's much more accepted mindfulness practices. And so I would change the language. And I would talk about let's, let's actually take the time to practice rewiring our neurons. Yes, and then we're literally doing the same. It's just you know, the way I'm using a different key to open the seminar. And that is the thing that I am, in essence, so grateful that I started this back then because it gives me that connection with some men. And it gives me that connection as well with my younger sibling that he wasn't open to any of these things that I was telling, like I was having all of these different practices and into meditation yoga, like energy healing. And he wasn't open to any of that. He'll just give me the proof. And now I've been able to talk through the years with him. Now he practices mindfulness. He still has the resistance to say that he practiced meditation, but he practices mindfulness. So you know, I think, the key of understanding as well, as we usually separate our body, like we separate and we practice with our mind, or we practice with our body, or we participate of our breath, and we have a tendency to separate things, whereas everything is connected. So when you know when I change a neural pathway, then what I'm changing is a pattern of behavior as well. And that changes the way that my body is behaving as well and moving because the pattern usually has some energetic pathway. And it has as well and bodily action, whether that is moving the body or whether it's speaking, then all of that is connected. By just focusing on one aspect, it's easier to work with it and for the ones that are open to more somatic perhaps telling about energy or trauma approach, then they might have been much more open to explore it through the rewiring of the brain and understanding from that space. So for me, it's wonderful this time that we have that proof and then we can reach a lot of different apps and we can actually bring that synergy between as you were saying before that ancient wisdom tradition and the modern scientific method, and we can actually bring all that together and bridge that gap.
Ericka Thomas 13:41
Yeah, and and as you were talking, it just, it just brought to mind like in the fitness industry, there was definitely a moment in time, where all of a sudden there was a shift and all of a sudden everybody wanted Mind Body classes, right? So they wanted a mind body class, but they didn't necessarily know or understand what that meant. It was just like the entire thing to have a mind body class. And we think of mind body fitness classes like yoga, pilates, maybe Tai Chi something along those lines and in my mind, every kind of Exercise and Movement is a mind body movement. And we can use movement to build and as you were saying kind of rewire the brain to build resilience. So we have kind of this epidemic now. of, of, of anxiety of depression of post traumatic stress for many, many different reasons. And here we have the tools at our fingertips actually in our fingertips, like in our fingertips in our hands and our feet in our body to begin the process of healing that simply by starting movement in some way to get back in touch with that mind body connection.
So what what do you see as as I mean, how can we use that mind body connection, to start to take conscious action? I think this this word conscious consciousness comes up sometimes and I feel like a lot of we don't really understand that concept. And reality because technically we're we're both sitting here conscious, but we do a lot of things as human beings unconsciously. And so making a shift into a more conscious direction. It's not always as easy as it as it seems like it should be so can you can you speak to that a little bit explain a little bit what you mean by conscious action. And and how can people get there?
Brian Berneman 16:25
Yes, this is somebody Thank you. Thank you for putting this in as a question this base because yes, most of us most of the day we are living, not consciously we are in our automatic pilot, we are living unconsciously. Which means we are not aware of what we're doing. We're not aware of why we're doing it. We're not afraid of where that's coming from, but we're doing so in that automatic pilot, we're going somewhere and we're going fast. This is the majority of the population we are you know rushing through life. Trying to I don't know what a tunnel know where we're going, but we're going in and we're going fast. So there's a lot of stress. As you've seen, there's a lot of anxiety. There's a lot of different things because we actually don't know how to stop, how to notice how to self regulate which will having that capacity and not getting to that that is actually really bad for our bodies. There. I find a lot of times and I say this broadly, one of the biggest issues that we have now as you were saying we have all of these different things happening for many different reasons. I always go back to the same root cause that is connection. We are so disconnected. We're so disconnected from our bodies from our mind from our experience. We're disconnected as well externally we're really disconnected from how we are connected with each other and with our with our Earth. So that actually is shown in the way that we're acting and behaving and all of the symptoms that we have. So the internal symptoms, as you were saying, are that stress, that depression that anxiety, their suicidal tendencies, and externally we have the symptoms of what we're doing to the earth and the climate crisis and everything. It's this symptoms, the inner circles and the outer and the outer symptoms of the same root cause, which is that disconnection. when we start to become more conscious, which I'm going to use the word aware for a moment at least so that within the too esoteric, the more present than we are and the more aware and aware of things, the more that we're operating in that conscious space, so that then we can actually decide how we want to show up instead of going through those automatic pilot behaviors, which are usually the patterns of behaviors that are already wired in there, which for most of us aren't helpful ways of conducting ourselves both in the way that we're going to choose for eating and saying things and relating to others. Most of us know that most of the things that we're doing are not healthy, yet we'll keep on doing them. Why? Well because we are living unconsciously. That's why we keep on doing it. And we need to understand this one. We're doing that as a self preservation mechanism. So it's not about judging ourselves for doing that because that's why we are surviving, because and you mentioned like earlier about trauma. When we understand we all are taking on trauma, and it's capital T trauma, and like you know, small t it doesn't matter we all take in our traumas with us. So our mind and our body are trying to protect ourselves from experiencing that because at that point, perhaps we weren't able to process that, which means that our body thinks we still don't know how to process that. So it's trying to protect us. So when we understand that, it's like, okay, , I can understand that so I can understand that for everybody else. That's why having compassion for myself and others is so important nowadays. But going back to, the more that I'm able to be present and aware then they can actually start to go from reacting to what's happening to responding. I mean, that for me, it's no reaction is completely unconscious, responding is conscious, the action might be the same. So I might, you know, take a walk somewhere around somewhere, based on what happened, but what is my choice and everyone is by pattern of behavior. So the more that I'm able to actually create my life and respond to life, through being aware until being present and through using my conscious awareness, then I'm actually starting to not only rewire my brain and rewire my patterns of behavior, but I'm also starting to notice, where am I out of alignment? What are the traumas and blockages that are uncovering? What are the things that are actually helpful, because I'm actually noticing. So being able to come to that space is important. Now, as I've been saying, getting into that space is not that easy at times, because most of us didn't grow up learning how to actually stop how to be with the so called uncomfortable feelings, how to process experience, how to be present with one another just by ourselves. And therefore, we don't know how to do that. That's where a lot of times, you know, I've done this and this is what a lot of people do. With me, we got one we seek support, because someone else has perhaps learned how to do something and we want to actually understand how to do that. So the more that I'm able to understand that the facilities and something important when when that mind body connection, is as he was saying, the importance of the body, and I cannot stress this. The importance of the body in our society is huge because we live mostly in our heads. I remember when I was a teenager, I remember the first Tibetan yoga class that I went to. And it was the first time that looking back that I actually felt my body and I felt the feelings in my body. I didn't think the feelings I actually felt that was the first time and I thought up until that moment that in yoga my body felt the hurt my feelings felt, I have no idea. And from that moment on the body was the vehicle that I used all of the time to actually rewire my brain to actually change my behavior to be more conscious and to take that action based on what's aligned to my values to what I stand for and to what I care about. And that is getting the exploration of the body that exploration and not exploration again, needs to be with care. Because we're holding on to those blockages in our body. We're holding on after trauma. So we need to be as gentle when we're working with ourselves and we're doing that somatic work. But that connection is all of the time either. So, you know this is a long way of saying we need to move more to more conscious action because that means that we're actually taking control of our life. We're actually becoming more conscious. We are not just repeating patterns that we were taught, or that happened because of a defense mechanism. We are actually starting to choose and we start to see what actually is aligned to what serves me now is there for us to serve me or what I think that serves our people is what sells meat now what's going to be supported for me to stay well to stay honest at this moment. And the actual might change in one month of may change from one year. The important thing is what's helpful now? Yes.
Ericka Thomas 30:08
Oh my gosh, there was so much in that. Brian, thank you for that. I mean, that was fantastic. That was fantastic. And you're absolutely you're absolutely right about those those feelings, being able to feel your body. I think for so many of us and I don't know if this is a cultural thing or or where it comes from, but we seem to be socialized out of respecting the sensations that come up in the body from a very early age, being taught to kind of ignore or just shoved down any of those physical sensations that come up because it's just not appropriate to express what those are or this is not the right time. To feel that sensation, whatever it is. And because of that we can cut ourselves off from from from really knowing what those sensations are at all. Like, I know that I have felt things and I can't even put a name to it. Like I know there's something but I don't have a word like we don't even have a word. So you know in that in that work and that reconnection sometimes you really it takes a long time to come back to to come back to that place where you have a friendly relationship. With your body. Because a lot of that communication between the body and the mind sometimes turns into chronic pain. A lot of times the only way the body can communicate is through pain. And especially if we've spent most of our life ignoring it. And those those whispered sensations don't get any attention and so they just escalate and escalate and escalate. And when you're feeling pain that you can't figure out in your body. All that's left from that is fear and so now we get into this spiral of fear within our own skin. And and that I think is is really one of the many sources of what's happening in the world today with our mental health epidemic as people just don't understand or and can't name and don't know how to get to a place where they can where they can be in their own skin without feeling that fear that that escalating fear. And the only thing that that that undoes that that that can really put the brakes on that fear is cultivating a sense of curiosity within yourself. And you just described that process really quite beautifully. To to come back into that awareness to be able to be comfortable or maybe not maybe comfortable as a strong word but to be able to sit with the discomfort that everyone experiences in the body. You know, we all are going to experience discomfort we all experience pain. We all experience uncertainty we all experience. Cons constant work basically we are working beings, right? That is just going to happen. That's how we exist on this planet. But we do have some choices there. And and so what do you how do you work with your, with your clients to kind of in a very conscious way, make some shifts so that so that they say that they can make some different choices and maybe lower some of the stress in their life or find some work life balance and kind of move towards safety in their own skin. What are some of the some of the tools that you are working with?
Brian Berneman 34:32
Yeah, so you know like this, of course everybody's different. So the first thing is always understanding what's in front of me. That is key, then understanding or actually, they have already a relationship with themselves or not. Most people never actually develop a relationship with themselves. They are living they actually don't have a relationship with themselves they don't understand what's going on and and learn to know what you were saying, understanding the different layers and the different aspects of life. So understanding you know, what is their their thought process? What's the framework that they're using? What's the way that they've been conditioned and programmed, so that we can understand then okay, what do we need to understand the work that it is a lot about unlearning and about reframing some of their experiences and using the mind yes and the body using the breath using interactions and relationships. So with each person is slightly different. I'm just going to give you some examples like here, when I remember like one of my clients. She was saying that she was in really, really like a perfectionist that she had a rough childhood and because she was often called the man to death and a lot of rigidity with that. And like she was seeing from a narrative lens. So I was like, so like you have a superpower there. You're able to be hyper focus you're able to actually you know, like, what do you need to relax? It's actually how you're seeing that and then what the action actually looks like. So when you actually get into the place of understanding, how do you reframe or how do you change the script of certain things and then being able to understand like, okay, so this is the way that I'm looking at that this actually can we look from a very different perspective with other people, you know, like being able to work through the body and get them back to the place of connecting with the body and to connect them with one does this feel like and what does it feel like when they feel perhaps unsafe? As you were saying, get them to a place of being misled if they feel unsafe? How does that manifest in the body and actually taking the time to feel that? Because that's what we then do, we don't take the time to actually have that feeling. And perhaps we cannot name it. There are certain things that we cannot put labels onto. We have for that reason. We have art that our fans to be able to express in ways that are harder to communicate their feelings because like the feelings we know them we can feel them and there's some qualities there are some textures or some layers that are hard to expand topping comes in. This is Patrick way when actually interact with people and when people are ready, that I can say this when they were meant and you know as a greeting because they come on and I say how are you as well? If they reply with a one word, response, or if they say something automatically and they didn't take the time to check in. I asked him again. So how are you really so they can actually take the time to actually feel what they are because you know, like bases are okay are good or not bad. Like I don't care about that. That's just something in me plus, I want to know how you are feeling and the more that we explored that the easier it is to actually Chase patterns. I'm going to give you an example as well as something that I do. Some years ago, I was in a relationship and my ex broke up with me. And in that moment, and what I did was I went and I sat down and I said to myself, I'm not going to stand up until I feel all of the feelings in my body so that I can actually process this. And you took me on saying this in the time that I'm going to say that it took me for a minute. I have a lot of practice doing this. So it might take a long time. It took me 14 minutes. But once I was able to stand up, I have no stickiness towards her. I had no problems seeing her, like coming to interact with her again. I had numbers on demand, because I actually felt the feelings and then process them and that is what we've done. So wherever to understand, you know, how do we shift behaviors? How do we change things? Well, we need to understand what's the cause behind our word and, you know, does this bureaucracy sort of traumas that happened to us when we were kids? That we are seeing everything from that lens is to actually what's in front of us? How do we take that responsibility now as an adult to say, Now I know I'm actually going to take responsibility for my life, perhaps showing up and going to come to courage to go and see all of those things that I've been hiding and pushing down, that's yourself. And we're going to have the courage to do that and to explore all of this because I want to be the one in control. I want to be the director, the producer and the main character of my friend or of my life and I know that every single moment, I have the capacity to create and to change the narrative and to create a new story. So I can't rewrite my story. Anytime that it's just do I need to know how to do that. I need to know that I can do that. And that's something we don't know. We don't know that we can also do so you know I always say to everyone that I work with where you Like willing to figure out what it is that's going to work for you. And not what worked for me perhaps some of the things might work, but not everybody's the same. So you know, like I've been lately working a lot with a lot more generation on trauma. And that is something that a lot of people don't even look at. They were looking on it for their childhood trauma, and it's like, well, there's a lot of things that are coming from before us as well. So when we start to explore those different lenses, then we're able to unravel and we can we can do this subtle work as well that needs to shift. So, you know, seeing all of that. So, setting one up that again, there's so many different ways of working, we are not the same, there's no one size fits all. So it's just like figuring out what works for this person. And then knowing and this I keep on telling my clients anytime that they thank me, I keep on telling them thank yourself, God the work all that I do wasn't there with you alongside you, but you did the work because I can say the same and if you don't do the work, nothing is going to change. So a lot of the time, you know, like, going back to each person does their own work, nobody can do it for themselves.
Ericka Thomas 35:38
Well said, well said, Well, Brian, I am really, really happy that you came on the work in today. I think this has been an amazing conversation. And before we wrap up, I was hoping that you could share with our audience what your personal work in looks like.
Brian Berneman 36:09
Yes, every single day. For me it's priority, not in our work. And that already is a thing. It's priority. Then I might do different practices. I'd change it up sometimes. You know, I do some like, and the morning first thing that I do, I always take the time for my practice in the morning to start the day. affirmations, gratitude, movement, mean sitting meditation, guided meditation, all of that in some way, shape or form. I do that in the morning. But I think that the biggest thing for me is I understood that what is most important and how to prioritize that. And what's most most important is I am the most important person, just like you are the most important person, just like everybody listening to us is the most important person. We understand. Just like when we are in an airplane and they say, you know, like if, if the masks come down, you put yourself first and then you have someone else. We need to start doing that for our lives. And that's what I do. So now you know after more than 20 years of doing this reading intention work every single day. I can find a lot of different ways during the day even now talking to you all this time. Like I'm super aware of my body I'm super aware of the feelings in my body and super aware of everything of what's going on. But that for me is the key to be able to have that and then you know, like as you're saying that working your work out then has that lens so a lot of the work that I do, then is grounded in that space isn't grounded in being able to create that inner wisdom all of the time because I'm learning and I'm learning and I'm learning all of the time.
Ericka Thomas 39:08
I have so many guests they all say meditation as part of their as part of their work and but I'm really curious. And I have to ask this because I am very curious about what you suggest for for people who have not maybe ever meditated before. Like have and I know when I work with clients, I know a lot of people they don't they there's some misunderstanding, like when you sit down to meditate. It's not easy. It's not an easy thing at first and so how how do you suggest what would you suggest for maybe someone who is new to meditation? Where would they start, especially because we are coming into a new year. People want to pick up new healthy things. And this might be one way that they could start to kind of establish their own inner practice. So So what might you suggest that they that they start with?
Brian Berneman 40:13
Yes, this is a great question. I have this a lot of times from a lot of the people that I work with. The first thing that I would say is understanding why meditation, what it is that we are trying to achieve when we're meditating. Of course there's different layers inside of that, but at the very beginning, what we want is presence, we want to be present, we want to feel connected. So one of the things that I say about that is if sitting down, cross legged closing your eyes you know, like if that is not a way that you're going to connect. Don't start with that. If you are very much in your mind, which this was my experience, start moving as a way of meditation. start understanding that movement can be a form of meditation, perhaps you need to work a little bit slower. Movement. You need to actually understand what is the way that is going to support you at this moment. Perhaps later on. Yes, you might choose to sit down and I frame it out of times as a way that better people can relate is through sports. When people say on like athletes say I mean the sound that is meditation, that is being fully present, when we get to that place, so it doesn't matter. Really what we're doing is about the way that's the consciousness that weren't necessarily level two, the more water that we are, the more present we are. That's meditation. So a lot of times I talk people start with movement meditation, and then understand if you want to sit, don't try to quiet your mind from the get go. You're not going to achieve that. And what you don't want is to get frustrated with the fact that you're thinking you are going to think just understanding what you're trying to do is you're trying to notice yourself thinking. So if you notice that you're thinking that is great. That means you're not failing meditation. That is what we are trying to do. My teacher is to say, when we're sitting in meditation 99% of the time, we are going to go somewhere else and we're going to catch ourselves at some point thinking it's like okay, now come back, being gentle, unkind to ourselves, knowing that's going to happen, because guess what, we've been thinking every single moment of every single day up until that moment, so of course it's going to happen you haven't rewire your yet your brain to do something different. So understanding those things are so important to be able to be gentle with ourselves so that we understand what are those first steps and when we actually have a result by sort of saying you know, end of the year and other people doing your resolutions I actually a lot of times I said to people don't do that because you haven't actually like look back and unless you have actually stuck to them. Don't make any resolutions. That doesn't work. What you want is one action. And this is one of the things that I say one conscious action, you can start to shift and include every single day in your life, perhaps not even anymore things that create the new game time for because everybody's already full in their place is how can you hooked into something that you're doing a different way? So perhaps every time and this is something that I say to a crowd of people, perhaps every time that you are going to sit and have a meal, take 30 seconds, just to breathe before you start reading. Whether it is you know, saying a prayer if you do that or given things to for the food and for the people that made the food or just sitting there doing something like that, that is really small that you know that is something that you can do every single day. So standing to actually understand that the biggest thing that you can do is create something that consistently you can keep it and that is what rewires the brain, that is where it's going to change the behaviors and then you can start to include other things. Now that, you know, this is the way that I can change my my body, my mind now, it's a little bit more plastic at this moment because I am actually changing it actively. So now I can include other things, but not making it so big. It's the one little thing that I can do. That is the biggest thing. So if everybody that is listening to this stuff, or if there are solutions, just use one thing that you know you can do every single day and start doing that candidates. I didn't do it to just reflect what happened. Why didn't they do it without judging just learning so that that doesn't happen to an extent. So that's my two cents on that.
Ericka Thomas 41:53
Yeah. I love it. I love it. I think that's fantastic. And so, so valuable brand if people wanted to get in touch with you or work with you, where do they find you?
Brian Berneman 42:06
Yes, thank you for that. So, for anybody who resonates with anything that I shared, or they resonated with some of the ones that I do, they contribute on either social media or my website. I have to basically one is my name Brian Berneman that come or Brian Berneman on social media or through my business conscious action, and said as New Zealand, that again on the website or on on Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, or the podcast. I always say this to everyone. I don't sell. I don't try to get clients. I only work with the people that are right fit for me and that I am the right fit for them. So only if someone fully resonates with what I do, and they are not sure perhaps they can just schedule a call or send me or send me an email and connect in that way and then we can work from there.
Ericka Thomas 44:57
Wonderful, beautiful and those links we will have them in the show notes. So the easiest way for people to find those of course is to go to savage Grace coaching.com forward slash the work in and you will have this whole transcript and all of those links to everything that we have talked about today. Thank you so much, Brian, for joining me on the work and
Brian Berneman 45:18
thank you so much. And thank you so much for not only the space and the wonderful questions but for the work that you do in that industry that it's a lot about the workout when you're not working as well. So thank you. Thank you
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